This is the Only Way.

May of 2014, I was a junior in high school sitting in biology class when I got a note that I was going to be picked up from school early. There was only 45 minutes left in class, so I was a little curious as to why I was getting out early, I also NEVER got out of school early. I got in the car with my mom and there was an immediate stiffness in the air. Later that day she proceeded to inform us the my dad was going to more out and file for divorce. An extreme shock to our family.

I constantly look back and wonder how we actually got through the next two years. There was hurt and anger on both sides. This day in May happened almost 5 years ago now. Since then, I have forgiven my dad and now have a relationship with him. I don’t understand exactly how to respect someone who treated me in the ways my dad did or said the things he said. Reminding myself that I was hurt is not the point though. I was hurt, yes. But the point is, when I forgave my dad, I said I would not judge my dad on these actions anymore. For a really long time, I didn’t respect him. I thought he didn’t deserve my respect because he was the one that left. I blamed him for my tears and current life standing.

Exodus 20:12 and Ephesians 6:1-4 call for children to honor their parents. What does honor look like today? Obeying? Respecting? Loving? Trusting? However you slice it, it is a verb. It means you are actively caring about respecting, loving, trusting, obeying, your parents. What I struggled to see was parents are not above God. Our heavenly father is the ultimate authority, whom we should ultimately respect, whom we should ultimately love, obey, trust. Our earthly parents are just as broken as we are. They will fail us. They will fall as we will.

Those who I have shared my story with often ask, “How did you get through that?” or comment, “Wow, I never could go through blah blah blah!” Well, to put it simply, it was the only way. There was no escape. There was no way around it. God placed a challenge in front of me and said, “Trust me.”

A lot of times, there is rarely a straight forward answer. If I am being honest, this is more of an unrelated statement. This is the only way. The only way, is to go through it. Trusting God to guide us. Knowing whatever happens will glorify him. Obeying his will for our lives.